HAPPY MOTHER’S DAY
(what I learned from my own mom)
Visual Concepts Photography Annapolis photographer
My mother, Marguerite, better known as “Maggie”
It’s around the corner; that special day set aside for Moms, to celebrate who she is and what she does for you. I’ve always enjoyed Mother’s Day with my own mom and knew how much it meant to her. In the days without Facebook, social media, the arrival of a Mother’s Day card via snail mail meant so much to my Mom and, of course, the expected long-distance phone call from all her children.
Years went by, I moved away and celebrating with my Mom on Mother’s Day became a thing of the past. But, we always talked on the phone and a card was always sent home to her. She was my rock. She knew how to make me feel better with her wicked sense of humor and she seemed to be able to take any problem I had and make me see that it was going to be OK.
The last time I saw my Mom, she was battling lung cancer. She wouldn’t let it get to her. While visiting her, I remember vividly when she took her laundry to the washing machine. Once a hearty, robust woman who had amazing strength, she could no longer lift the basket of laundry. Instead of asking for help, she tied a belt to the basket and dragged it along as she determinedly walked to the washing machine. My heart sank. In that very moment, I saw reality hit me in the face and then I saw sheer determination. I dare not ask to pick up the basket for her. She wasn’t going to give in. I think I smiled and cried at the same time. She, on the other hand, took it all in her stride as if it was something she always did all the time. No words were spoken between us. None were needed. I learned a lot from my mother in that moment.
My mother loved to dance; it was her passion and what she lived for. She was determined to take me dancing with her (I have two very large left feet!!). Someone took this photo.
It was the last photo taken of us together. It is framed and sitting on my bookshelf where I see it every single day. It is my most cherished photo. I love the way she is looking at me, her youngest child of 6. In spite of the fact she would only have 3 months left on this Earth, she was going to make the best of it. That’s my mom. That’s Maggie. Her glass was always half full. Ask anyone who knew her and they would say the same thing, “she had a joie-de-vivre about her that made you smile.” I am reminded of the song, “You are Amazing Just the Way You Are”, by Bruno Mars, “When you smile, the whole world stops and stares for a while, because you are beautiful just the way you are!” And, she was beautiful, just the way she was.
So this Mother’s Day, honor the woman in your life, be it your mother, grandmother, step-mother, sister, aunt…whoever it is who inspires you, lifts you up and makes you feel that much better! As you can see, I only have ONE photograph of my mother and me. Me, a professional photographer!! Imagine that! My secret is out!! Exist in portraits for your loved ones for one day they will become your most valued possession!
Below is a video of a mother/daughter photo session that was done recently in my studio located in the Annapolis area. One day, these images will be these children’s most valued possession!!
HAPPY MOTHER’S DAY to everyone out there. I especially applaud those who are not mothers but act as surrogates to those who are in need of mothers and I especially applaud those who are soon-to-be mothers. The best is yet to come!!!